You write,

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All “political correctness” means is basic decency and respect, an active effort to listen, a recognition our actions affect others.

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But that is simply not true!

It is also used to refer to the mindless conformism by which some people decide their opinions and behaviour, not through thoughtful consideration of the principles involved, but simply according to what other people or society in general consider to be ‘acceptable.’

Perhaps you might find this alternative perspective helpful: